oh, the dreaded guest list. why does making a list of all of your favorite people in the world seem like such a daunting task? i know for me, part of the stress comes because i'm an includer. (yes, "inclusiveness" is an actual strength, so says the strengths finder test - of which i am a huge fan by-the-way - but, i digress...) so, being an includer means i want to include every single person from every single season of life on this one very special day. i know, i know, mission impossible.
jeff and i are also both networkers -- meaning we have a lot of people in that "acquaintance" tier of friends. especially in the line of work we are both in where we are constantly meeting new people (whose names we're supposed to always remember, of course) the line gets blurry sometimes between significant relationships and those ones that may just last for a short season. because those significant ones? yah, they're the ones you want at your wedding.
but we're definitely not complaining. the fact that we have an abundance of community is a good thing and we are super grateful. so we kinda knew from the beginning that this was gonna be one big 'ol party. i've heard the motto "people over prime rib" and that is definitely one we have adopted -- meaning, we'd rather prioritize having the people we love and care about there, with maybe not as fancy of a feast, versus a small group served a five course sit-down meal.
and that is what we've done. let's just say our guest list errs more towards the higher side of "between 300 and 400"...
oh yah, one big 'ol party for sure.
(which of course affects our food & drink decisions - another post for another day!)
*marisa's marks: define your priorities first. small intimate gathering or large blow-out party? fancy feast or finger food buffet? neither is better or worse, but know what you want! because remember you do need to feed your guests something. so consider your budget and your buddies and start setting guest list boundaries!
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Timely again...daughter and I were working on guest lists yesterday, and as we're trying to keep costs WAY down, it's hard trying to find the balance of who to keep and who to scratch. Still waiting to hear from his side of the family....
I hope everything is going smoothly! You are going to have the best beautiful wedding lady :)
It's so hard to narrow down! My now husband is also an 'includer', he wanted wedding of 300, I wanted more around 75. It was a process of narrowing down, bit by bit. The most helpful question for us was, 'have you spoke to them in the last year, 2 years, 3 years' after that question it became a little easier to cut a few from our list. Good luck my dear!
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